Want to be rid of trouble in your life? Jonathan Edwards yearned to be free from repeating the same mistakes over and over, just like you and me today. His daily resolutions show this when we study Resolution 24.
24. Resolved, whenever I do any conspicuously evil action, to trace it back, till I come to the original cause; and then, both carefully endeavor to do so no more, and to fight and pray with all my might against the original of it.
One of the greatest hindrances to my thriving in my life has been my deception to what my real battles are. It seems those of us who were born in "challenging" homes have to face this dilemma or suffer greatly (as well as possibly inflicting suffering) all our lives. I thank God for wise mentors and counsellors who helped me see when I could be greatly offended that I was subconsciously setting up situations to try to "replay" my home setting to try to finally play out the scenes I couldn't make sense of from my childhood. In fact, I treasure Ps. 27:10 for this reason ... Kay's paraphrase: If my Momma and Daddy abandon me; yet will God always be there for me and He's proven it all of my life.
God showed me to honor my mother and father means to acknowledge that they are my parents. Whatever was hurtful or even harmful to me, I must acknowledge and work through the anger and welcome God's love for all, to bring total forgiveness to them. Only when this is sure will I be free to having loving relationships with men and women in my life. Oh, that I had words to communicate the good life God has for all of us when we grasp what He means in honoring our mother and father.
Once I had the original cause of my authority issues clear, I was liberated to have strong supportive relationships with superiors in work, church and other situations. Knowing God is my ultimate authority has been the most liberating truth besides salvation in my life.
I'm convinced no one reaches adult life without pain, betrayal, or some hardship. Can it be that all of us need to do the work to get to the original cause of any craving in us that increases our temptation ot sin?