Friday, June 5, 2009

Avoid Conflict At All Costs

My mom and my husband were two of the most important people in my life. They were both dear wonderful people, but they hated conflict. They actually feared conflict. I sense I may refuse to deal with anger in healthy ways because I lived my life trying to accommodate my mom or my husband.

You blog readers have been terrific lately in responding to my anger prompts. Please don't let me down now.

What do you think about this...anger gets masked, ignored or stuffed trying to avoid conflict. Then in the "dark" it grows like a fungus.


Anonymous said...

A HUGE yes to this! I know from experience! I try to mask anger and then I get bitter. Then I feel guilty and end up aiming my pent up anger toward myself. End up feeling like everything is my fault....when a lot of the time it really isn't. Just, as you said, avoiding the conflict! How do we correct this problem????? Any suggestions?

Nicole said...

Totally agree!!! You can't run from conflict. You must face it head on, and work it out. I know some people who like to run from it and on the outside it looks as if they have it "all together", but they must be burning with all sorts of emotions. It will come out some how either in affecting ones health or an outward explosion some day. Not good to supress anything. Now that I know this and live by it I need the Lord's help to not sin in my anger, such as keeping my tongue from spuing hurtful things to others around me. Thanks again for this discuss, Kay! Bless you dear one!!!


Nicole said...

Father God, please bless Kay this night. Be with her, love on her, and show her yourself as she sits at your feet. She desires to serve you and love you with a pure heart. Father, give her wisdom in this area of anger, and heal her from past hurts so that she can be whole. In your precious son's name, Jesus. Amen.

© 2008 Kay Martin

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