True Christ-like behaviour will be hospitable, kind, generous and gracious to others. Self consumed insistence is not in line with a Christian mindset and lifestyle.
Substitute teaching in our local high school gave me a glimpse into the lack of basic good manners in a majority of the students. Working in corporate America I saw that a college degree alone would probably not be enough for them to fulfill their career goals. I felt they were playing a "game" with no working knowledge of the "game's" rules. How can anyone win any game when they don't know the rules? Businesses insist on certain etiquette in their employees.
Other teachers were convinced etiquette had not been a priority in most of these students' homes. Don't assume this was a poverty issue. No, the problem had no boundaries. The teachers said that sociologists have labeled this generation the drive through diners. They rarely ate meals at a dining table.
I well remember how convenient the drive through dining was when my children were young. A saving grace for my children was that politeness was necessary for my husband's and my good living. It wasn't an option. He and I were both only children of strict parents. Our children complained constantly about our insistence in observance of our "rules." They said we were way over the top compared to their friends' parents' expectations.
Both children have excelled in their careers. Looking at these high schoolers, I realized that our children had a great advantage with our home rules of conduct. They didn't have to be tutored on basic etiquette by their corporations or universities. Wish we had had such emphasis on some other key areas of life...but at least we stayed consistent in this area.
I recall one conversation with a student telling me of her dreams, "Oh, Mrs, Martin, I will be a marketing executive with a top firm when I graduate." Every other word out of this young lady's mouth was profanity. This honor student had a marvelous personality and wit. I spent extra time trying to show her the power of habit, and how she could work on a new pattern of speaking to overcome this addiction. I even offered her rewards for going 2 full days with no profanity. After one hour she came to me and said," _(profanity)_, Mrs. Martin, I just can't do it. This is just me." I sighed thinking how will she ever fulfill her dreams with this habit?
Reading Apostle Paul's writing in 2 Timothy 2:24 I see Strong Gentleness in his exhortation,
II Timothy 2:24, "And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient."